#depression – How do you find hope when you are blind to it?

Hello one and all…

Normally I try hard to tinge whatever I write here with a sense of optimism and hope. However, today I find that little four letter word, hope, a real challenge.

I am faced with a real challenge that is difficult to see the seeds of hope within. The saying goes that hope spirngs eternal. Right now I am feeling like my river, come stream, come trickle of hope is fading fast. I seem blind to see from where it might spring forth afresh.

To put an optimistic spin on this, I am not giving up. I am to stubborn!

I am tired though. Partly physical, mostly of being the centre of my ‘wonderful’ world or at least feeling that way. In the last year I seem to have become the focus, the ‘problem’, the dragger of feet or the choke point to progress.

Now I look to the future, wonder what it holds for my girls and their dad. How I can achieve the dreams I once held for them. For on the current course I can only see a slippery slope to a not so good place.

So I ask, how do you find hope when you are blind to it?


3 thoughts on “#depression – How do you find hope when you are blind to it?

  1. Your post touches my heart. Like you, I deal…or in some cases “try to deal” with sorrow and anxiety. Yesterday I wrote a post, from which I have included an excerpt–some of the tools that help me when I feel hopeless:
    I deal with a life where anxiety comes and goes; where fear is sometimes way too familiar a companion; and where sorrow can overcome me. But I honestly do not think I am alone in this. I think that what I have described is just part of being alive and that it’s less a disease or dysfunction, and more of the nuance of being sensitive, creative and struggling for awareness. So, here is the list that helps me:

    1. Distinguish between depression and sadness. Sadness is part of the messiness of life and depression keeps you from getting out of bed. Sadness does not need medication. Sometimes you hurt and sometimes you feel good. That’s just the stuff of life.
    2. Make friends. Set aside time to get a coffee or go for a walk with someone and listen to their story…share your own. We all need a tribe.
    3. Exercise. A good, brisk walk, will get the endorphins going and can help snap you out of a melancholy mood.
    4. Don’t drink too much. Alcohol is a depressant.
    5. If you don’t have an animal, volunteer at a shelter. You’ll meet potential friends and animals are great healers.
    6. Nurture a creative outlet: dance, art of any kind, writing. Express the light and the dark. A lot of good art takes form in the shadow.
    7. Avoid self-diagnosis and instead rely on something inspirational. I have a few books that I dive into when I get blue. These days I like reading
    David Stendel-Rast, who has made and entire career of promoting gratitude. Good stuff.
    8. Reach out to the world. I have found that a little volunteer work goes along way in soothing a troubled heart.
    9. If you are having a rough time—belly breath for ten minutes. It’s good to develop some kind of meditation or prayer practice that gives you a place to let go your burdens and reclaim your breath. When you breath just in your upper chest—it’s like panic breathing, so deep belly breathing can literally lower your blood pressure and make you feel calm.
    10. Don’t get too lonely, too tired or too hungry. Did you know that the symptoms of depression look just like symptoms of exhaustion?

    1. Hi Stephanie and thank you. Your post reads a lot like one of mine. You carry a lot of the core themes I subscribe to.

      In my own case, right here, right now I feel like I am facing a bit of an inevitable cliff or big wall.

      I will be ok. As you say all of us face days, challenges, moments that take a little (or a lot more effort) to overcome.

      Thank you again for your kind words.

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